Hi friends! I wanted to talk about jealousy/ envy. This is a strong emotion that God gifted us with that we often misuse. Yes, you read right! This strong emotion is a gift. It wasn’t an emotion that was supposed to torment us, give us low self-esteem, and make us feel unworthy. It’s an emotion that was meant to pull out the best in us. It’s an alarm in us that reveals our deepest insecurities and desires of our hearts. You can learn a lot about yourself by examining those you are jealous of. Let me give you some examples. Perhaps you and your friend is overweight. You both get along perfectly as friends because you both share the same insecurities of your bodies. But your friend decided to start eating more healthy and started exercising and lost a tremendous amount of weight.
So now you are feeling insecure and jealous of your friend. Misery loves company, and now you have no one to be miserable with. So now you lost a good friend because your envy caused you to lash out at her. You say things like ” You think you are better than me now” and ” You look like a skeleton” ; despite the fact you think she looks great. Instead, the right thing to do would be to notice how her new body makes you feel. Your jealousy really is your heart calling out for you to better yourself also. You’re miserable in your body and it’s time for YOU to make a change! Who else better to help you make that change than your friend! Let her be your help and inspiration! Get tips on how she was able to accomplish her goal so you can too! Before you know it, you both will be sharing in the victory!
Let me give one more example. Perhaps she is now in a new loving romantic relationship. Now you feel jealous and lonely.
Perhaps you never really thought about being in a relationship until you saw the happiness it brought your friend. Instead of trying to sabotage the relationship she’s in, notice how her relationship makes you feel. Perhaps it’s time to open up your heart and get in the dating scene. Maybe the ” I don’t need a man” club is not working for you anymore! If your friend found a healthy relationship, use her relationship as inspiration to move forward in your own love life. She might even know someone she could introduce you to!
This advice goes for anything you are jealous of. Whatever you are jealous of, put it as one of your goals to accomplish! It’s your heart telling you what paths in life it desires. Use the person you envy as inspiration! Watch them and get as many tips and advice from them as possible!
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